An Insight On Being A Volunteer

In order to help others effectively, you have to be stable yourself

We mean emotionally stabilized.

This means that you are not afraid, not angry, not hostile, not defensive, not on a mission.

  • If you are afraid you cannot help anyone. Fear will control your reactions and your decisions will be based upon this.
  • If you are angry then everything is through the lens of revenge and retribution – you are focused on getting even.
  • If you are hostile then no one will want to talk to you and you can’t help anyone effectively.
  • If you are defensive then anything that is said to you will be taken as an attack.
  • If you are on a mission – meaning you think you know what and how to do it, you will be wrong and only do more harm to others.

These are mistakes that many victims make when they decide that they are going to help others – save them, and get even with scammers. This is the mentality of most anti-scam group owners too.

Helping traumatized victims of scams is not for anyone that has any of the above. If anyone feels like they are in these places then you should remove yourself – let time pass so you can heal and maybe try again later.

Victims’ Assistance is a profession with specialized skills and a deep concern for victims. We can’t help everyone, but we help the most that we can – but at least we understand the work we do. These are not amateur games.

Being a volunteer requires that you recognize that you are not an expert and also that you have been through this trauma yourself, and that you have to watch for your own symptoms and tendencies toward the above. Healing yourself comes first.

We welcome volunteers but it is very important to know your limitations while you are recovering yourself. There is no shame in asking for help, and there is no shame in admitting that you cannot do something. Never let pride dictate your actions when the health of others is at stake.

We thank all of you for your help – it is important and appreciated – but don’t stretch yourself beyond your limits in doing it.

Thank you all for your help!

Remember, self-care comes first!

Miami Florida U.S.A.


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FAQ: How Do You Properly Report Scammers?

It is essential that law enforcement knows about scams & scammers, even though there is nothing (in most cases) that they can do.

Always report scams involving money lost or where you received money to:

  1. Local Police – ask them to take an “informational” police report – say you need it for your insurance
  2. Your National Police or FBI ( »)
  3. The SCARS|CDN™ Cybercriminal Data Network – Worldwide Reporting Network on »

This helps your government understand the problem, and allows law enforcement to add scammers on watch lists worldwide.

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